To be in love....when you are broke!

Love is blind..and also deaf and dumb and just because you have only pennies in your pocket doesn't mean that cupid is going to spare you. Read on for some tips on how to win over your lady's heart without losing too much of the green dough.

As someone wise once said, “love is blind” and that might be the reason why we never bother to check our pockets before building dreams about happily ever after. Even Cupid is least bothered with your bank balance when aiming that arrow of love towards your unsuspecting heart. Wish he would do that though, life would become much easier if things came at the right time, to the right people and at the right place. 

But if you are broke and still in the throes of that mystifying, ethereal, feeling called love; and want to woo and impress your loved one, despair not, there are various means to do so. And all without losing sleep over where the next meal is coming from. So if you are a guy on a low budget, tighten the wallet strings and read on.

Are you in love with your best friend? Some facts to keep in mind!

It is a very natural process when the companionship and closeness you share with your best friend, turns into a deeper emotion. Falling in love with one’s best friend might not be what one has in mind, initially. But when you share a loving bond with someone who understands you well, it is not surprising when you start developing feelings of love for that person. It is actually a more normal transition than we think and might happen to anybody.

There are several things which lead to a situation of love between two best friends. Firstly the bond which they share is a strong one, filled with camaraderie and affection. You share your deepest thoughts and feelings with your best friend, tell them secrets and keep their secrets, laugh and cry with them and you can be yourself around them. When you have so much of emotions floating around, the wind might suddenly turn and you might find yourself in love. But just as there are pros and cons to all situations, there are similar ratios which come into play when you fall in love with your best friend too. Here is a look at some of the things you need to weigh before going down that road.    

Sex with your ex - is it a good idea?

*Statistics reveal that a significant percentage of separated and divorced partners tend to share their beds again. It might sound unrealistic and weird when you're imagining  throwing your partner out, when murder is much closer to your mind than sex, but the numbers prove that there are high chances of you having sex with your ex.

When we share a deep bond with someone special in our lives, the connection remains alive to some extent even after we break off. We still feel an attraction and an affinity towards our ex-lovers and the temptation to become intimate with them is sometimes irresistible. Many times we find ourselves in situations where we are able to relive our pasts and that familiarity draws us closer to our ex-partners. And even though we might not have planned on getting intimate, we might end up walking the past lanes again.

Sex with our exes is a more common phenomenon than we think, and has often caught people unawares.  While it might be alright to be physically intimate if you are planning to re-work on your relationship and trying to give it another shot. But if that is not the case and you are still getting tempted to “do it” with your ex, then you might want to consider a few things first before going down that lane.

Are you in a rebound relationship?

The term rebound relationship does not necessarily indicate jumping into a relationship just as soon as the previous one is over. It can very well be an affiliation which is sought long after the previous relationship is over, but where the feelings and emotions of the past are still present, although they might be latent. These feelings are sometime so subtle that the person might not even be aware about it and enter into another attachment which might prove to be unsuccessful in the future.

It is very important to bring closure to the previous relationship and come out of all its bindings before deciding to indulge in another. It is not fair to inflict the aftermath of a broken relationship upon another person, just because you want to erase the memories of the past. You might be able to break free from the clutches of your emotional past by getting into a new affair, but this does not bode well for the future of your current affiliation. So, before you jump into that new relationship, you might want to check out the following signs and check if you are out of the old one.

When men flirt.....

Ever wonder what a woman is thinking when a man is spinning those cliched lines?

Being faithful in a relationship...do you really want to?

Life is full of beautiful temptations and it is natural enough that the human mind tends to get attracted towards the taboo. Everyone has their own Achilles heel and some might succumb to the enticement while others overcome it. Statistics have revealed that most divorces and break-ups happen because of infidelity by one or both the partners and the ironic fact is that most times the affair turns out to be nothing. So, in the long run, one ends up losing a laboriously built relationship to satisfy a moment’s fancy. And when one realizes the futility of the venture, it becomes too late to do anything about it.

No one can assure that they are immune to the lure of the forbidden and will never stray in their lifetime. But what one can do is use the power of their own judgment to prevent any mishaps from happening. Just like precautions can save accidents, being prepared and aware can help you to remain faithful and save your relationship as well. There might be some genuine problems inside the marriage or liaison due to which it ended; but if it was a happy union and you had nothing but only your wayward nature to blame for the break-up; then you will be happy to have some words of advice before hand. Here are some handy ways to help you to remain faithful and loyal in your relationship.

The truth behind infidelity

Faith and trust are such delicate pillars in a relationship that once one of these is infested, the entire foundation collapses. It is extremely easy to go down the forbidden path; after all, we have always been warned about the temptation of the taboo. All of us, at some point of time have faced the lure of the illicit but the choices and decisions we make at that point of time determine the consequences in our future. Some give in and some turn away, there is no right or wrong in any of these choices, what is right or wrong is the impact or the consequences of our choices.

There is no one who can guarantee to be loyal and faithful to their spouses or partners, but what one can do, is to promise oneself that they will try their best to stay away from temptation. But, when one knowingly or reluctantly makes the choice to be unfaithful, they most often don’t pay much attention to the consequences of their actions. The thrill of a momentary fling can bring a lifetime of unhappiness to a person but the haze of the attraction towards the forbidden is so strong that such awareness can hardly be expected.   

Jealous Much? Tips to deal with jealousy

A romantic relationship brings in a lot of beautiful, enchanting moments and happy memories. But along with all the nice things, it also heralds innumerable complications and concerns, jealousy being just one of them. Jealousy might develop as a small seed of mistrust; which can then blow out of proportion and destroy the foundation of a lovingly built, once-happy relationship.

This “green eyed monster” can sprout out with some base to reality or might be just a feeling that develops without a base, owing to some inner, deeply rooted psychological concern. Psychologists have accredited the cause of jealousy to many factors, ranging from insecurity, lack of confidence in self, to a feeling or sense of threat to self. The feeling is quite normal when it is limited to a mild possessiveness; however this mild “normal” emotion might soon turn into chronic emotional instability. Sometimes jealousies are based on the treatment one receives from one’s partner. Constant rebuffs, lack of attention and interest, alignment towards other members of the sex might all be a factor which leads to jealousy. Whatever the source, the end result is always detrimental to the couple and their relationship. It is very important to understand where the feeling of jealousy has steeped from and also to nip it at the bud in order to avoid further damage. Here are some ways to avoid or repair the dents put into a relationship by the ill-effect of jealousy.