Monday, November 10, 2014

Tips to move out without any complications



If you are in a live-in relationship with your partner but things have not worked out and you're now looking to break up your relationship, the question of moving out will soon pop up. It is easy to pack up your bags and just leave if you don’t have much luggage; but if you have accumulated a lot of stuff over the years, it becomes a lot more complicated to sort out the stuff. And even though you might not be married, but since you have been staying together, the arrangement is somewhat similar to that of married couples and the division of property is also equally distressing and complicated. There might not be any legal hassles but the emotional and other aspects are unfortunately similar to that of moving out of a marital home.

No matter what the current situation is, probably neither of you would like to have a bitter parting. There are several measures you can take to ensure that you move out amicably and with as less pain as possible. Here are some tips to help you move out of your girlfriend’s place with dignity and without complications.


Make a list of all the items: There will be many things that you both would have bought together or separately during the period that you lived together. Some would hold special memories and value while others would probably be junk. Whatever it is, you should both make a list of the things that you want to keep and the ones that you don’t and arrive at a mutual understanding. There might be something that both of you want to keep and it is easier to reach an amicable decision without being nasty about it. If there is something that you both don’t want and if it is something that you bought, you should also arrange to have it disposed of. There is no need to leave unwanted baggage behind you.



Discuss the financial aspects: There is the financial aspect to consider as well when you decide to move out of alive-in relationship. If you have been sharing the rent and suddenly decide to move out, it is not fair on the other person. The best way to deal with this is to talk it out with your ex girlfriend and find out if she would like you to stay till she finds another person to share her room with or she wants you to find someone. The financial part in a living together relationship is a delicate subject and should be dealt with care and caution. It is best to discuss all the financial implications of your moving out before you make a concrete decision.

Be kind: If you are the one who has decided to end the relationship and move out, your girlfriend is probably feeling hurt and rejected. It is normal for her to behave rudely towards you and want you out of her sight as fast as possible. No matter what the situation is or how she behaves with you, don’t let your temper run away. If you feel that she is not able to cope on her own then you could ask one of her friends to come and stay over and help her cope with the situation. It is easy to ignore her distress and move out without looking back; but since you were staying together it is your responsibility and moral duty to be concerned about her well-being.

Don’t let it get nasty: 



Most break-ups end in disaster with one of the couples just packing the bags and storming out of the house. We tell a lot of things when we are angry and let our distress rule our tongues. The only way to handle such a situation is to be calm and collected and let the other person speak their mind. You should avoid getting into any kind of slinging match or exchange any heated words which will later make you feel bad. You should try to keep the situation from getting nasty and try moving out without leaving any hard feelings behind through your words.

It is never easy to move out when you have been staying together and have built up so many happy memories, but sometimes when the situation demands you need to take hard decisions. The only thing that you need to keep in mind is that; just because you are moving out does not mean that you have to act like the bad guy. You can have a smooth and uncomplicated parting by moving out like a gentleman.